The Tony Schwartz fan club is back in action today, to share a post of his that encourages us to not discard our negative emotions but to use them more productively.
Here are 5 important reminders about our “negativity bias” and what we can do about it.
1. Focus on the bright spots – train yourself to focus on what’s going right – realize that yes, it’s easier to remember and dwell on the negative events, but we can train our brains to be more positive.
2. Remember that much frustration is the result of unmet expectations. What expectations do you have that are setting you up for disappointment?
3. The negative state you’re in is temporary – some of it may be outside the realm of your control – but the perspective is entirely yours. Work on ways to let the negative emotions fade quicker and hold tight to the positive emotions.
4. Emotions are contagious – surround yourself with those who lift you up and won’t take withdrawals from your energy bank. In turn, remember that your emotions affect those around you. Many of us seek shelter in our negative emotions by befriending those with similar viewpoints.
5. Your negative emotions can serve a purpose – use them to push you in a direction towards what you really want and how to get there. Be productive with your emotions by finding a way to be heard, and work with others who will help facilitate positive change and positive discussion.